Separation. Life as a single parent!

Introduction 

Families come in all shapes and sizes and often change suddenly without warning (pretty much like anything in life). The term ''single parent'' is used in a negative fashion and is mostly directed at mothers and not fathers. However a separation of a relationship does not have to mean your a single parent you are just now a single person and co-parenting can become just as rewarding and successful when executed effectively. 

Expectations 

If you have suddenly found yourself in this situation or its something that has been on the cards for a while don't worry or stress ''the best is yet to come'' (although it probably feels absolutely awful right now). 

You may have mixed feelings depending on who wanted the break up, if it was mutual, expected or non expected, this list can go on. First things first give yourself time to process your thoughts and feelings, you are allowed to be selfish and put yourself first at times. During this stage try not to have heated arguments with you ex partner as it will impact negatively on the children (the children do come first still even when being selfish). 

Its good to make some realistic ground rules and set boundaries as you move forward throughout this process, so everyone knows where they stand and so its not confusing for the children. Consider things like access, costs, living arrangements and introducing new partners (some adult discussion needed). 

''The New Normal'' 

Once the dust has settled and everyone is comfortable you can actually start to enjoy being single (don't shoot the messenger). Think about the pros more free time, socialising with your friends and even a cheeky child free holiday. Its not all doom and gloom you can actually live life, be happy and even fall in love again. There is happiness at the end of the road and you will even be happy for your ex when they move on with someone else. Not everyone who has children are meant to stay together and sometimes it just works better when separated. 

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